Expert in a Wrong Field? (and how to get rid of a bad habit)

According to Malcolm Gladwell, it takes 10,000 hours of meaningful practice to become a world-class expert in something. It’s about 7 years of full-time deep practice (i.e. not counting the

Share
The Expert Syndrome: Dealing with People Who Already Know Everything

In the past, I wrote about the “I Should Be Happy” Syndrome, for situations when everything seems great, and yet something feels awfully wrong. I also wrote about different aspects

Share
Do People Change?

In conversations about raising kids or about office politics, I’m sure you’ve heard me say:  “Personality is destiny.” Ask any parents of grown children, and they will tell you that

Share
“I Should Be Happy” Syndrome

...I still hear from clients all the time: “I Should be happy!” The rest is implied: “…but I’m not”. Here are some of the signs and symptoms of the “I Should be Happy” Syndrome, in case you want to self-diagnose: - You’ve done everything right: studied at the right school, got the right job, live in the right place, with the right family. And yet, secretly, you feel like you have failed somewhere. - You are an expert at the job that you like, and still, you feel like you could be doing something better. - You have everything that you need, and many of the things that you want, yet you feel like something is seriously missing....

Share
Didn’t Win the Mega Million? Here’s What You Do Now.

Did you buy a ticket for the Powerball? I  hope that you won! The chances are that you didn’t. Below are some ideas to help you get closer to your dreams,

Share
50 Signs You Need a Change

I can name at least 50 things that are terrifying about making a change, as you shift from what you know (and possibly hate) to what you don’t know (and

Share
Are You Kidding Me?

On Sunday, April Fools’ Day, did you pull off any pranks?  Did you get anyone? Did anyone get you? Were you amused? Angry? Surprised? Shocked? Relieved? I believe that the jokes

Share
How to Feel Good About Change

What is your story about change?  Do you sigh, tighten up and say “Change is hard!”? Do you take an approach of a seasoned programmer: “If it’s working, don’t change

Share
Are You Good Company?

Are you good company?  I’m sure you are nice. And funny. And well-mannered. You mostly know when to say something, and when to keep quiet, right? Yet, being good company

Share
You Are Your Neighborhood

We are looking for a new house for our family.   As we drive around the different neighborhoods, I notice the people who live there. Mostly, they are oblivious to

Share