“Coping During Coronavirus” Series, Part 6 of 10.
Wisdom comes at the expense of having broken something important – friendships, habits, glasses, heels, codes, hearts, dishes, connections… So, it’s logical that by our 30’s, many of us have a good grasp on dealing with what’s broken: we trouble-shoot effectively, decide when to cut our losses, and how to invest energy into fixing whatever we want to keep.
It’s natural to want to attend to what’s broken: giving energy to the child who is struggling, allocating mental space to the one work project that is not going smoothly, investing into a relationship when it feels strained.
We have become phenomenal problem-solvers who are excellent at fixing things that are broken.
There’s a catch in this, though: whatever if focus on – expands. If we keep focusing on what’s broken, we’ll keep seeing more of what’s broken.
So, then, what if you consciously shift your focus from what needs fixing to what you want to expand in your life?
Today, as a change of pace from constant problem-solving of the quarantine, I want to put my mind on what’s working well, what’s good, what’s NOT broken. Would you do it with me? Let’s take a look at our lives.
- What is working well?
- What could use our energy even though it is Not broken, so that it could expand even more?
- What do we love as it is now, without having to fix it?
- What are our current relationships that sustain us, mentally, spiritually, and physically? How can we invest into them and support them, even though they don’t demand anything from us?
- What are our most successful projects, and can we give them more resources?
- Who are our most favorite people, and how can we share energy with them even when nothing is broken between us, and simply as a sign that they matter?
Let’s look at what’s Not broken, because whatever we focus on – expands. Let’s scan all areas of our lives: professional achievements, friendships, intimacy, love, personal victories, innovation, sense of purpose at work, having impact with our actions, staying healthy, learning new things, developing mastery and expertise, autonomy to make choices…
I’d love to hear your stories of getting through this seemingly impossible challenge of working, learning, parenting and creating under quarantine. How are you making things work? Please, share your story with me, Alina@AlinaBas.com . Also, please, sign up for my newsletter if you’d like to see new posts like this in your inbox.
FIGURING IT OUT TOGETHER:
* * * * *
Much of my executive coaching work is done remotely via video conferencing/phone, as my clients are all over the map. While it may not be wise now to stick your hand into the Boca della Verita in Rome, we can still search for your deep truth through coaching, via Skype, Hangouts, or Zoom, http://AlinaBas.com/get-started . We can talk about your priorities, managing virtual teams, co-working with your spouse from a home office, and strategies for moving through uncertainty.
* * * * *
I did a workshop called “Emergency Coaching Response” for leaders during the People’s Recovery Summit in NYC after hurricane Sandy. I offer a similar program now (remotely) for corporate leaders, lay leaders, and managers. Please email me at Alina@AlinaBas.com if your company or group may be interested. Learn to: Help a person in distress regain focus and calm on the spot, Ask questions without intimidating or frustrating a person in crisis, Shift the person in crisis away from spinning stories and focus on the present, and Guide a person in crisis to allow for new possibilities in a post-crisis life.
* * * * *
One of my favorite workshops to teach is “Intuition: Myths, Science, and Practice”. I’ve taught it to software engineers, financial analysts, entrepreneurs, lawyers – analytical thinkers interested in developing their sensory capacities to understand and use their intuition more effectively. One-on-one skill development, private groups, corporate workshops. Understand what scientists and practitioners know about intuition, and learn to use the body as a sensor for information that is not accessible through step-by-step reasoning. Please pm me or email at Alina@AlinaBas.com for more info.
Coping During Coronavirus Series:
- Working while parenting on quarantine
- Plan B for high achievers
- A way through uncertainty
- You are a BBC Dad now
- When we can’t bulletproof our lives
- What’s not broken
- Recalculating the route
- When to take the easy path
- Restless While Waiting? Do this.
- “Things should be different.”